And that’s why I’m here

I am having my morning coffee with my partner and weird (read: loveable) dog when my NYT feed reminds me of my life’s purpose. (Did I pay extra for this?)

Through the steam of my americano, I leaned into my phone as I read Women Are Calling Out ‘Medical Gaslighting’ – which is essentially a summary of my typical tirade around what women often face when they are not feeling well and seeking help. 

I yelped, spilling a little coffee in my lap as my poor partner had to hear my rants on this topic all over again. (I am really fun at parties.)

Everyone who has had the pleasure of my soapbox, including healthcare experts, are all equally shocked to hear the research around gender bias that still exists today. Some fun facts from the article are:

• A study shows that age and gender inequities in diagnostic time in several cancers studied

• A study shows that women are given less pain medications when presented with abdominal pain in the ER

• A study shows that Black patients have 2.5 times more negative descriptors in their health record in comparison to White patients 

And here are a few extras that I often reference:

• A study shows that men with chest pain were 2.5 times more likely to be referred to a cardiologist than women with the same symptoms

• A study shows that women are underdiagnosed with COPD

The NYT article suggests that independent advocates can help reduce the impact of gaslighting by affirming, redirecting and championing the patient. But the ultimate goal is to help empower women so they are their own advocates, so that they are equipped to make important decisions and make better choices that are in line with their health and wellness goals. Studies show that taking an active role in your health is the key to having the highest quality of life. 

And that’s why I’m here. 

I am here to help women who are experiencing illness live their best lives despite the failings of our healthcare system. From not feeling like your best self to stage 4 cancer and everything in between, as it is never too soon to be your own advocate.

I am still haunted by the thousands of comments from women who shared their horrible experiences of medical gaslighting. I wonder how things might be different if they had support from someone like me?